I know this doesn't directly answer your questions, but your membership is suffering from self inflicted wounds by insisting that what was said by the members be included in the minutes.
" In an ordinary society, the minutes should contain mainly a record of what was done at the meeting, not what was said by the members. The minutes should never reflect the secretary's opinion, favorable or otherwise, on anything said or done." RONR (12th ed.), 48:2
When the minutes contain what RONR says they should contain in §48, I'd be willing to bet these questions rarely arise.
Others will chime in on the rest.